The Art of Letting All Out

This article is a product of an ugly trend I noticed among people pleasers.

They know within themselves that they are being hurt, but they won't complain.

What people are doing to them is hurting them, but they find it difficult to raise eyebrows.

They are subdued by the aura of some people.

They are at the mercy of other people.

They don’t want to offend anybody.

Yet, they keep hurting.

They are heartbroken.

The have emotional wound in their heart that can’t heal.

The wound is blistering and smelling and they are dying.

They have holes in their lungs. They can't digest the situation and the nemesis they are facing.

These people weep bitterly.

They know who is hurting them.

They know what's hurting them.

They know the only way out is speaking up.

They know the only way to be free is by confronting people hurting them.

But they are just cursed—they won't speak up.

They are dumb. Always trying to numb their feeling by dumbness.

If you are in that shoe, I've got you in this article.

Learning to let all out is an art. It's not a rocket science.

I'm going to be teaching you that in a jiffy.

Now when it comes to letting all out, we have to be very careful.

Letting all out in certain situations could be disrespectful.

You don't want to yell at an elderly person for acting silly and insane.

But you want to express your grief at what they do in no little capacity, so they can know you are not cool with what they do.

This is where wisdom is important.

It's fine to let people know you are not cool with what they are doing to you.

However, communicating it the right way is key.

How do you find the courage to be able to speak up?

Below:

Before you can be able to confront anybody, you must first be a man of value.

If you are a late comer, you have to change. You can’t correct the error of punctuality when you’re guilty of it.

If you are a chaser of things under the skirt, you can’t have the courage to address matters having to do with sexual immorality.

If you are an enemy of good record keeping and transparency in accountability, you will fail utterly when it comes to addressing managerial and administrative matters.

Just like the old proverb says: ”You can't give what you don't have.”

The first thing you need to know in your confrontational spree is that you can't preach the gospel of what is ideal when your life is not patterned to doing what is the ideal.

Second, you must have confidence.

Confidence is key in anything.

A man that is not confident will be swept under the floor when it comes to decision making.

Ability to make sound decision is a product of confidence.

I'm not telling you to be picking muscle at the pride gym house to boost your ego.

What I'm saying is you must be confident about the truth.

Cowardice is a disease that you must battle with.

As long as you are standing on the foundation of the truth, you have nothing to fear.

Exercise confidence.

Confidence gives you the energy to confront and approach any issue the right way.

Be confident like a baby.

Baby, though weak, have the courage to call their parents out when they (their parents) err, especially in the case of hypocrisy--their parents doing what they have warned them not to do.

Be confident.

The last on the list is acting out.

You cannot be confident and still have your head under the shell like a snail.

No.

Act out.

Some people are onscreen actors.

They speak with boldness in their closet.

They speak presidentially.

But when it comes to facing issues head-on, they are restricted.

They cannot do anything.

Just like a heap of coal thrown into water, they are subdued.

The best way to confront having summoned the courage to do is to not waste time on acting out.

Act it out.

Is a friend doing something shitty? Call them in brotherly love and tell them to stop.

Is anybody always beating you playfully and you feel hurt by the act? Look at them in the face and tell them to stop.

Is anybody recommending what is against your value and virtue,to you, and they wouldn't stop? Tell them to keep their mouth shut.

If you shut your mouth, your life will shut down.

Use your mouth to address situations and circumstances that you don't want.

Let your action and reaction do the same.

You have nothing to fear.

As long as righteousness is your watchword,

There is nothing to fear.

You hurt yourself the more when you fail to speak up when you're being hurt.

You suffer physical hurt.

You suffer emotional trauma.

You suffer societal seclusion.

Why?

They know you are the stupid one who won't speak up when being terrorised.

Speak up!

Ohhhh! Speak up!

Challenge the situation.

Stop being complacent.

I hope you found this article useful.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,

Oluwaseyi

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